tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7599317265897121292.post2972421811028867757..comments2024-02-04T18:46:57.204-06:00Comments on quirks and chaos: To the girls who mocked my son in the mallmother of manyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15908483127049496177noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7599317265897121292.post-53551898997946021232017-05-03T07:47:18.460-05:002017-05-03T07:47:18.460-05:00Growing up, I always considered myself one of the ...Growing up, I always considered myself one of the "good kids." But "good kids," like those girls, can still slip sometimes. I look back now at my teen and pre-teen years and remember a few times when I stupidly said rude things, or mocked other children for some reason, probably to impress my "friends." I remember the teachers who called me out on it, and I know that I am a better person because of them. <br /><br />Most of the other comments on here are applauding you because you stood up for your children. As a mother, I agree with them 100%; that is the most important thing. But as one of those "good kids" who made some mistakes. I applaud you also for the impact you likely had on those girls. I doubt they have forgotten you, or ever will, and they probably still feel badly about laughing at your son's expense. If they are anything like I was at that age, you made a real, positive difference in their lives, by calling them out and handling the situation so well. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18300899545579957137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7599317265897121292.post-91558407503242843262017-05-02T16:27:36.925-05:002017-05-02T16:27:36.925-05:00I've only just found this post, but it was a t...I've only just found this post, but it was a teachable moment to those girls. They needed to be called out and i hope they take that lesson with them and learn from it. And when they see other friends "teasing" someone, they have the confidence to call them out on it. Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07806691640222810507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7599317265897121292.post-34173151862296219102016-01-06T14:57:05.724-06:002016-01-06T14:57:05.724-06:00I am sorry to hear about the beginning of your dau...I am sorry to hear about the beginning of your daughter's story, but I am happy about the path she is on now and what you have done to make that possible for her as a parent. I hope that she is able to live a happy, full, and successful life with the skills and support you have equipped her with. Good job.Marie Riverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05701688138573142480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7599317265897121292.post-26406112631236990262015-10-08T22:26:45.668-05:002015-10-08T22:26:45.668-05:00This really touched me. Thank you for this comment...This really touched me. Thank you for this comment. I wish that every one could have a 13 year old streak and more. mother of manyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15908483127049496177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7599317265897121292.post-79373155647944439732015-09-20T01:01:40.273-05:002015-09-20T01:01:40.273-05:00You have my heartfelt joy to have had a 13 year st...You have my heartfelt joy to have had a 13 year streak. As I have said before in another post I am 28 years old and Autistic myself. during my 28 years I have been mocked, belittled, and insulted by: Classmates, siblings (expected but no less hurtful), Grandparents, Teachers, Doctors, Peers, Co-Workers, Clergy, and even my own father. I honestly wish that more people had the courage to do what you have done. My mother did her best but I always think of the scene from Dumbo when the mother gets locked up for protecting him. While my mother has never been arrested she has been censured, mocked, vilified, and even sent to an insane asylum for a few months. I sincerely hope to see a day when parents like you become more commonplace.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04023779821685706791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7599317265897121292.post-25679308614058181992015-07-15T06:25:53.368-05:002015-07-15T06:25:53.368-05:00Hi there,
My name is Stephanie and I am an editori...Hi there,<br />My name is Stephanie and I am an editorial assistant at the Mamamia Women's Network. We would love to republish your wonderful post on our site.<br />If you are at all interested, could you please email me at stephanie.dickson@mamamia.com.au.<br /><br />Kind regards.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7599317265897121292.post-67280497177077012202015-07-15T05:46:46.349-05:002015-07-15T05:46:46.349-05:00I'm enjoying your blog. My daughter will be 18...I'm enjoying your blog. My daughter will be 18 next month. I'm in a situation where she has Aspergers so she picks up on people bullying her and making fun of her. She has become quiet and doesn't talk around others much because of it. We have to keep trying to pull her beautiful personality out because of what she has endured by others. When they are painfully aware, it is even more painful to us parents. It's hard to explain to them why people act that way, and harder for them to trust again. She also has epilepsy and when her grand mal seizures came back in front of all the kids during gym class, we could no longer hide her epilepsy. Because of the bullying, the school's lack of understanding, her health with the seizures, we ended up pulling her out of school and homeschooling her in the 9th grade. It was the best decision we could have made. She's happier and we feel she is learning more of the things that will actually apply to her. 2-page Algebra problems aren't likely to matter, but the coding class she's taking where she is learning to code websites can end up being a home-based career. We can tailor her curriculum to what interests her the most. And now, she only has to be around people she chooses who will help encourage her, not discourage her - who will motivate and inspire her, not destroy her self-esteem or confidence. Jennifer Taylorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06360330085131177132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7599317265897121292.post-8243715581933671032015-04-11T13:49:54.480-05:002015-04-11T13:49:54.480-05:00I think you handled that quite well! Calmly expla...I think you handled that quite well! Calmly explaining the situation like that will make them think twice before ever making fun of someone again. A little girl once made fun of the way Bethany talks. When I explained it was because of a brain tumor she was quite upset about it. I like to think that she never made fun of anyone again.Sylviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11728106748390605243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7599317265897121292.post-46749095487798821532014-12-22T17:49:31.563-06:002014-12-22T17:49:31.563-06:00As others have said, I feel you did the right thin...As others have said, I feel you did the right thing. If we don't call the teasers and bullies out, who will? <br />I have a 3 year old son with autism. He is a big boy like his daddy, and looks to be closer to 5. I still have to carry him sometimes when he gets overwhelmed. He is verbal but not fluent, and I have overheard snide comments.He doesnt understand the cruelty thank God, but I do. I have quietly but fiercely told them that they should keep their uninformed opinions to themselves as they may upset the wrong person one of these times. Mothers of special needs children are even more protective than most. <br />It hurts me to think of him being ridiculed or teased. I am so sorry your streak was broken. Hugs from one mom to another. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09864923220924198956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7599317265897121292.post-16805195546407022482014-12-22T17:00:41.141-06:002014-12-22T17:00:41.141-06:00This would have made me so upset! I think you did...This would have made me so upset! I think you did a great job and I'm glad you shared the experience here. Lisa Ehrmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10161940293621569520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7599317265897121292.post-40985771690381656192014-12-22T16:15:46.422-06:002014-12-22T16:15:46.422-06:00AS a teacher, I felt you did the right thing. Chil...AS a teacher, I felt you did the right thing. Children have become "the entitled" to say and do what they want. They are not malicious, but they continue to do things that are not socially acceptable just because they want. You defend your child and I'' be right behind you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07515770743560204350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7599317265897121292.post-58897504967702732112014-12-22T16:00:02.043-06:002014-12-22T16:00:02.043-06:00I work at a school in the lunchroom. I correct c...I work at a school in the lunchroom. I correct children all the time for making fun of their peers. One time, I picked a quiet, shy boy, whose English is not the best and he has a speech impairment to be the line leader coming in from lunch recess. He asked why I picked him and I told him I thought he was smart for always being so quiet and listening more than talking. The other students nearby started laughing and said... He's not smart at all, he's stupid.... well, that's a trigger word for me. No one is stupid... Not.one.single.person. So, I explained how we treat others and how judgment is not what we are suppose to do in this world. It seemed to work... I have not seen them picking on him anymore...AmyDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13912959287025898289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7599317265897121292.post-34936822011323254212014-12-22T09:09:30.028-06:002014-12-22T09:09:30.028-06:00I'm so glad you are teaching the kids in your ...I'm so glad you are teaching the kids in your neighborhood young. Tate has many friends at school because we educated them about autism when they were very young. mother of manyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15908483127049496177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7599317265897121292.post-65544582412593737342014-12-22T09:08:46.189-06:002014-12-22T09:08:46.189-06:00Thanks TC Harris. You are always quick to encourag...Thanks TC Harris. You are always quick to encourage me and I appreciate that. mother of manyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15908483127049496177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7599317265897121292.post-12436362225863426682014-12-22T09:07:55.269-06:002014-12-22T09:07:55.269-06:00Thanks for reading! I have a blog post about the t...Thanks for reading! I have a blog post about the things Tate used to attach himself too. You might like this one. http://quirks-and-chaos.blogspot.com/2012/05/unusual-attachments.htmlmother of manyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15908483127049496177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7599317265897121292.post-17333772403310184912014-12-22T09:06:22.172-06:002014-12-22T09:06:22.172-06:00Thanks. I love to write about our experiences and ...Thanks. I love to write about our experiences and although I wish this one would not have happened I'm glad it can be used to help educate perhaps. mother of manyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15908483127049496177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7599317265897121292.post-17237528373353768532014-12-22T09:05:10.920-06:002014-12-22T09:05:10.920-06:00Thanks. I hope I made a difference in the way the ...Thanks. I hope I made a difference in the way the girls will think and behave in the future. I appreciate the comment!mother of manyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15908483127049496177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7599317265897121292.post-62342753057665278622014-12-22T09:04:05.338-06:002014-12-22T09:04:05.338-06:00Thanks so much for the encouragement. Thanks so much for the encouragement. mother of manyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15908483127049496177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7599317265897121292.post-85893296510100576062014-12-21T22:58:28.990-06:002014-12-21T22:58:28.990-06:00This was beautifully written. I am a special educa...This was beautifully written. I am a special education teacher, and I grew up with a sibling with special needs. My brother and the students I work with are some of God's greatest blessings in my life. Thank you for sharing your story! You responded very well to a difficult situation, and were able to reflect on it and share it in a way that has reached a lot of people.Melissa Hookerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03867223693400980365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7599317265897121292.post-5068215938595737772014-12-21T21:44:30.957-06:002014-12-21T21:44:30.957-06:00What you did was awesome!! You handled the situati...What you did was awesome!! You handled the situation well.. I have a daughter who is autistic but on the low spectrum.. she is very high functioning.. still in get comments mostly from Adult's that is worse I think just because you would think they would know better.. most have been Co workers.. It does hurt sometimes.. but then I just have to realize as you do that some people know better they just forget.. Shellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14751943184483919511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7599317265897121292.post-31088281678732533572014-12-21T15:15:44.148-06:002014-12-21T15:15:44.148-06:00You did the right thing, I have had to did this ma...You did the right thing, I have had to did this many times and don't regret it for a min. You summed up my feelings perfectly!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06441785327386018912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7599317265897121292.post-39691376019452248112014-12-21T14:44:19.924-06:002014-12-21T14:44:19.924-06:00YOU GO MOM. You did exactly what needed to be done...YOU GO MOM. You did exactly what needed to be done. I get looks from people all the time because my 8 year old must have a straw with him at all times. It's his comfort. B https://www.blogger.com/profile/01329907286318168128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7599317265897121292.post-73887903381784941622014-12-21T06:41:55.181-06:002014-12-21T06:41:55.181-06:00You did the right thing in correcting those girls....You did the right thing in correcting those girls. It was a lesson they will remember.Twisted Cinderellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14273548648344779210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7599317265897121292.post-77211911870581628292014-12-20T14:37:07.346-06:002014-12-20T14:37:07.346-06:00This happened to us today and my girl us only four...This happened to us today and my girl us only four. The other girls were in our neighborhood and only a year or two older than her. My husband set these four girls straight with a polite reminder that we don't laugh and make fun of other people, especially not those with special needs. They both apologized and owned up to their mistake. We have to continue to be correct others, because I know in my heart they have been taught better. Maybe after today those girls will be better. I love your pots, they let me know I am not alone :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02577008298347441289noreply@blogger.com